If you’ve ever wondered whether the guy you’re dating is being honest, you’re not alone and chances are, there’s already a Facebook group out there sharing the same concerns.

“Are We Dating the Same Guy?” (AWDTSG) is a growing network of private, women-only groups where members anonymously post photos of men they’ve matched with or dated, asking a simple question: “Any tea?” The goal is to warn others about cheaters, liars, or even dangerous behavior before it’s too late.

The dreaded “Hi girly” message when another woman reaches out with receipts has become all too common.

These groups are often where that truth starts bubbling up. But not all stories end with solidarity. Some end in lawsuits.

How These Groups Work

AWDTSG groups are city-based (New York, London, Toronto, etc.) and run by volunteer moderators. They’re intentionally women-only and private, with strict vetting for every new member usually requiring a profile check, questions, or admin approval.

The good news is that if you live somewhere that’s highly populated, chances are there’s an “Are We Dating The Same Guy” Facebook page for your city:

• NYC;
• Boston;
• Chicago;
• Denver;
• Westside LA;
• Houston/Austin/San Antonio;
• Phoenix/Mesa/Chandler;
• Philadelphia.

But if you can’t find your city (or guy), you can always simply look on the main page with 750k+ members!

Once inside, the format is simple:

• A user shares a photo (usually from a dating profile)
• Adds a first name, rough age, and maybe a short backstory
• And asks: “Does anyone know this guy? Any red flags?”

Group rules are clear: no last names, no doxxing, no unfounded accusations. Posts must stay respectful but the responses can be eye-opening. Within hours, members might discover the same guy is dating multiple women in the group, using fake names, or recycling the same story across apps.

For many, these groups are a lifeline a way to check the vibes before catching feelings. But as you’ll see, they’re not without controversy.

How ProFaceFinder helps you

AWDTSG groups show how far people will go to feel safe while dating even if it means sharing sensitive info publicly. But not everyone wants to post in a group of 50,000 strangers. And not every situation calls for crowd opinions.

That’s where ProFaceFinder offers a smarter, private alternative.

Instead of asking a group for “tea,” users can upload a photo and instantly see where that face appears online across dating apps, social media, and public platforms. It’s fast, discreet, and puts control back in your hands.

Many AWDTSG users already rely on tools like Google Lens or PimEyes. But ProFaceFinder goes further:

• Cross-platform search: Matches faces even with different filters, crops, or usernames
• Fake image detection: Flags AI-generated or stolen photos or even mugshots
• Privacy-first: Searches are anonymous, and no data is stored

For anyone dating online, it’s a way to verify quietly without risking backlash, leaks, or defamation. It works alongside communities like AWDTSG but removes the public pressure. You get answers, not exposure.

Legal and Privacy Risks

AWDTSG groups offer protection, but not without consequences. In Chicago, a man sued 27 women and Meta after he was falsely linked to a rape case in a local group. In Los Angeles, another man filed a $2.6 million lawsuit, claiming unverified posts cost him his job and reputation.

Under U.S. law, Facebook is protected by Section 230, meaning the platform isn’t liable for user content but individual group members can still be sued. In the EU and UK, even reposting a dating profile photo without consent may violate GDPR or national privacy laws. These regions have stricter standards around personal data and consent, making group activity riskier for posters.

Even women who contribute to these groups may face legal or personal fallout especially if content leaks or accusations turn out to be false. The line between protection and defamation is thin, and courts are starting to take notice.

What is the ‘Are We Dating the Same Guy?’ Lawsuit?

In 2023, John D’Ambrosio filed a lawsuit in Chicago against 27 women and Meta. He claimed the group spread false accusations including ghosting, controlling behavior, and links to a rape case he had no involvement in. His case cited defamation, doxing, and emotional distress. It marked one of the first major legal tests of how far AWDTSG groups can go and whether platforms like Facebook could be held accountable.

Also, if you’re just ranting or name-calling without proof, it could count as defamation, and yes, they can take legal action if their reputation is harmed.

• Watch your language. Even if you’ve been hurt, don’t insult or lie, stick to facts.
• Follow the group’s rules. Most won’t allow offensive posts or posts without evidence, like screenshots.
• Go anonymous on the Facebook group. It’s safer and gets your point across without putting yourself at risk.

AWDTSG shows one thing clearly: people are tired of dating in the dark.

These groups fill a gap but they come with risk. If you want the same peace of mind without the drama, ProFaceFinder gives you a safer option. No posts, no rumors. Just answers.

Check quietly. Walk away confidently. That’s smarter dating.